I am posting this letter I received with permission from the author that describes poignantly the pain experienced from narcissistic abuse as well as the power we all have to heal after narcissistic abuse! I expect my words to be ignored and ridiculed. I expect my deepest feelings to be unimportant or even laughable. I know what I say means nothing to you, but even with this knowledge, it means something to me. So with that said, my first goodbye is to me not being important, my opinion being so irrelevant. Goodbye to the days of being last and feeling so sorry for ever thinking I should make myself important.
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We talk a lot about leaving the narcissist before they can discard you, and this should be done if at all possible. Sometimes it isn't possible though, and discarded partners are often left devastated, both financially and emotionally. Narcissists get bored very easily. Initially, they are intoxicated by the chase and the conquest of a new partner, and they are prone to magical thinking and idealization, which means they often believe all of their problems can be solved by "the right person. Their goals are all selfish. They aren't looking for a partnership or trying to build a life with someone or anything of the sort. They are looking for a person who will do things - solely for them.
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Although the current DSM-5 no longer separates personality disorders along a separate "axis," narcissistic personality disorder NPD is still recognized as an important condition. It is characterized by symptoms that include grandiosity, an exaggerated sense of self-importance, and a lack of empathy for others. Like other types of personality disorders, narcissistic personality disorder involves a longer-term pattern of behaviors and thoughts that cause problems in multiple life areas, including work, family, and friendships.
To make matters worse, you keep reading about other people who have already left their toxic partners and seem to be living in Dreamland, while you feel utterly powerless to do anything about your own situation? The first days of trying to maintain No Contact can seem impossible. Today, I answer those questions for you. Normally, what feels like an impossible situation involves seeing things from a different perspective and realizing that you have way more power than you give yourself credit for. No Contact involves more than simply not calling them or not responding to their texts and voicemails.