This wouldn't be such a necessary talk to have if Indian girls got more screen time in Western culture. Like, I get that we have Bollywood. And Aishwarya Rai is phenomenal and beautiful and pretty much everything I've ever wanted in a poster girl for Indian culture. I really mean that.
One of my biggest takeaways while exploring Western Europe for six months was a conversation I had with an Austrian couple. Within a few minutes of meeting in an Irish pub, the lady of the couple asked, "So, is dating a construct of Hollywood? Do Americans really go on What struck me the most was that there isn't a word in many languages for what North Americans call "dating," and that, in fact, few cultures around the world actually "date. So what does it mean, to date? And how do other people get to know one another before committing, having casual sex, or something else? These were the most pressing questions my friends back home wanted to know, so I went out in discovery of answers.
However, we can't deny that there are some fundamental differences between men and women -- from how we are socialized to the chemical and hormonal differences that naturally occur. Thus, I thought it appropriate to follow up with a post on the difference between dating a girl vs. Again, many points on this post would apply if you switched the genders around. A boy is attracted to girls. A man is attracted to women.
You still need to be a good, loving, respectful man to her, but you also need to have a pair of balls. You have to make her feel like she needs to impress you in ways other than just looking good to get a chance with you. Essentially, you have to be willing to risk losing her. Some women will test a guy by continually cancelling plans or not showing a lot of interest, to see if you are secretly a bit desperate and are willing to put up with anything to get a chance with her.