Single parent dating is anything but stress-free. Not only is hard to find the time to date, but your kids are likely to have strong opinions about your choices, too. In fact, having a child that doesn't like who you're dating isn't all that uncommon, but should it be a dating deal-breaker? Not necessarily.
I lived in an unhealthy family for more than 40 years, but I didn't make the choice to "break up" with my parents overnight. For most people, it's unimaginable for a grown man or woman to choose to stop all contact with their parents. The people who provided food, clothes, and shelter, attended dance recitals, volunteered at school, or cheered from the bleachers during every Friday night's football game don't deserve to be abandoned in their old age just because they made some parenting mistakes, right? According to Monica Ross, LPC, "If either party feels as though they cannot be respectful, loving, and supportive towards the other, then yes, it's time to move on and find those with whom one can. This is true for family members, friends, coworkers, and really anyone one would surround oneself with. Dysfunction, especially when combined with abuse, does not end once a child reaches adulthood or because the abuser begins to get old. By then, the abusive parent is well-versed in the tactics needed to make their children do what they want, and these behaviors are likely to continue right up until the parents' death, unless someone—usually the abused—makes it stop.
What can they do to help them accept their new life and the new people they want to introduce them to? Be prepared and respect that this may be painful for him to hear. Hundreds of thoughts and feelings may be overwhelming him as he tries to figure out what this information will mean for him.
HOW do you react when you discover that one of your parents has been having an affair? Worse, what do you, do when you know about your father's affair and your mother doesn't? Do you tell? Do you hide it?