Are you trying to heal the toxic trauma bond that you have developed after being in a narcissistic relationship for very long? The kind of exhaustion and self-doubt you experience while still in the relationship can linger on. This is especially true since such relations create a trauma bond that increases your attachment to your partner even though you know they treat you poorly. Although it can be difficult, it is possible to break the trauma bond. The first step in healing trauma bonds is separating Going No Contact from the narcissist and identifying who your true friends are.
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All people have some narcissistic traits. They can help you become a tougher person, give you the right amount of confidence, and allow you to set limits on how others treat you. And this is not all; narcissists want to control others, usually by separating them from the ones who support them. And all of these actions are more or less abusive. Narcissistic abuse can occur in different forms, and victims of such abuse may find that they develop PTSD symptoms. Generally, narcissistic abuse consists of all sorts of unloving actions that aim at the gradual dismantling of your self-esteem by the abuser. And the truth is that the narcissist does not like themselves, so they hurt you to feel normal.
Narcissistic abuse and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
This borrowed humiliation and shame is exactly what the narcissist intends for the victim to take from the narcissist. Their own unfelt core of shame. Daily boundary transgression and criss crossing of responsibility starts to wear on even the clearest minded of targets. Gas lighting is a technique of psychological abuse used by narcissists to instill confusion and anxiety in their target to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgement.
Tough post for me. There are significant changes in the brain that occur from trauma. Including trauma from being in a marriage with a narcissist. It takes time and effort to heal. One cannot just ignore it, deny it, or say a few prayers and hope it goes away.